After going out with many girls in my life and getting close to 23 yrs of age i have come to one conclusion.Forget all the crap you have learnt from bollywood n hollywood.Forget the sitting at a girl's feet and begging like a dog.Why? Because its the most self destructive thing you can do.For some reason i have seen most girls run away pretty fast when you give them presents,flowers and too many compliments.I guess the reason is they want a guy who's a CHALLENGE.Someone whos nice but at the same time lets them know that hes doing THEM a favor instead of going out with them instead of the other way around.In my experience all the girls i have dated i noticed the ones i was really nice to,gave the flowers and gifts to,Not to mention the compliments were the first ones who dumped me.And then the ones i didnt spend much money on,Never was the first to touch, and gave them the feeling that "i dont care if you like me or not" were the ones who were attracted to me the most.Anyone else agree with that? Girls like guys who are a challenge???

this isn't always true, it may seem that way but it isn't always true and even those of us that do prefer that type of man we grow up and realize what we want is a nice guy. Can't get into it right now but that is what I will say for now.

Add one thing though if you are finding girls like that than most likely there are deeper issues going on with her.

The assholes get the broads, the nice guys get the wives, it all depends which you want.

Maybe he wants a broad wife?

Or a wife from abroad? there are sites you can go to to arrange that, er, apparently

No it's not like that. I have men who are interested in me and are very nice to me, but I'm not attracted to them. So it doesn't matter how many flowers I get from them or whatever, I will still not be interested in them. I'm polite and like their friendship, but it won't go any further.

I can think of a few guys in the past who I've liked but they weren't interested in me and I was probably a bit too eager or available for them regardless of how they were cool to me.

To paraphrase for you desibaba... you're ugly

Ive been aware from the time I ws 15 that I'm always attracted to the "badboy" type. I've always taken it for granted that there's a certain amount of crap I have to put up with when with a guy like this. But, the minute the treatment turns abuse=ive in any way.. I'm outta there! The way I see it is, I have my pick of anyone I want to be with... So why take shit from some asshole that doesn't appreciate me? The man I'm with now is perfect, a highly educated, ex-badboy who has matured and developed an air of sufistication, but has retained that "badboy" charm that women seem to go for. He's cooled and reserved his manner, but you still know by seeing or talking to that he's someone that's still dangerous and a guy to be respected. I guys most women who'll admit to gong for this type of guy WILL admit that they kinda like the primal security they represent. Maybe it's just instinctual.

I have to say i tried being nice to my wife , giving all the things she wanted , material things ,, And I was getting no were so i have switched to being not so nice , Im never abusive just not very nice at times ,, My sex life has seemed to pick up for it ..

I think your wife has issues,

When you been with men that are bad and abusive and all that it changes you, now I want nothing more than a "good boy" maybe some of the bad guy in him when he is preotecting me, but I want a man that is nice to me romances me and makes me feel loved and cherished and respected.

I won't settle for less anymore.

Maybe she wants to be submissive for you...women are comfortable with being submissive if they feel secure......just saying

WRONG!!!

It simply means she does not love you anymore, now... isn;t attracted to you. You do not flick her switches etc etc

No amount of flowers, chocolates, massages etc etc will make someone like, love or be attracted to you if their heart is not in it

PERIOD

sounds like sombody has lived a bad marriage to me sorry

Actually Bondi not wrong, one I was being sarcastic Two if the woman doesn't like him doing nice things and rather him be a jerk to her than she has issues, wether it be not loving him anymore or self issues there is IN FACT something going on.



PERIOD

On a lot of levels, I want to agree with the first post. I am a man who has believed in doing the right thing all the time. I had become bitter for a while. I think I'm over it but it was hard. Especially when you've had girlfriends who have litterally left you for their dealers, spent their entire time with you longing for the guy that used to beat her, wanted a guy who would spend 24/7 with then (even calling off of work to do that), or who were just looking to trap a guy with pregnancy. I haven't had a girlfriend in over 1 year and I'm not looking to just into anything any time soon. There are prospects and wherever they go, they go. If anything does turn into a real relationship, I'll embrace that, but in the meantime I'm not going to try so hard. I am finding that the less I try the more women I seem to attract. Women don't seem to want a nice guy, they seem to want a bad boy that they can turn into a nice guy. I waiting to find a woman that has outgrown that stage. Either that or get some tatoos and piercings so they think I was a bad boy.

yep, thats it!

not always true. mines an asshole. i am not a broad.

not all true...for me. i married a nice guy, he wasnt. he was a closet asshole. just waited till he "got me" to go back to what he knew best. if he was the asshole first, i wouldnt have looked his direction.

now someone needs to stop this thread in its tracks. we come here for fun, to escape the real world. stuff like this needs to be kept for personal messages.

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i dont like the beatles buck!!!

lol, you quote yourself, reported your own post, you crack me up babe.. this is actually a good board topic.


for the record, you are all talking about stereotypes... none of which can always apply to all situations..

if you are a guy and you date a gold digger, a girl looking to trap you, etc... it's your own fault, presents and all that other shit are just meant to compliment relationships, not to create them, if you rely on presents to find girls to date/marry, WTF do you expect.

And if you are a girl who likes dating assholes, don't complain about the asshole you're dating or married to... you picked him

boanna always quotes and reports herself...duh! why would i report without leaving my 2 cents first?

and for your little 2 cents here john...i didnt pick the asshole. u are wrong there too. but gee...thanks for such a speedy reply!

For whatever reason the younger girls go for the dickheads and the older chicks, who've gotten burned countless times, go for the nicer guys.....I don't get it.














Personaly, I'm an asshole, but the last person I'm gonna ba an asshole to, is the person sucking my dick

look...boannas quoting her own ass!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I've quoted it twice already

there u go..thats all we ask for. be nice to me, be a fucker to the rest of the world.

beh, thats what my wife says too, but I think she wishes I was nicer to others

just be nice to others while we are watching....

good tip

How wrong u are... You have no idea about me so shut the fuck up! I am just trying to convey the fact that endless gifts and material signs of affection will not get someone who does not love you to love you.




Why does this woman have issues? Maybe she does not love him now/anymore/ever. All the flowers in the world will not change her mind.... that is my opinion or at least 1 possibility. I do not think you can say the woman has issues without knowing the full story

PERIOD

Exactly it was your opinion so for you to quote my post and start off by saying WRONG!!!! was hmmmm whats the word???


By me just saying "she has issues" I was being a smartass most people here know not to take me serious or i should say no WHEN to take me serious. They get that I am a smartass 9 times out of ten.

I don't know the girl so the Issues was sarcasm.


BUT if you read what he said, he expressed that when he was nice to her she was not liking it but when he started being NOT NICE, she was nicer to him. As a woman, if you are pushing away kindness and LIKING somone treating you like a jackass I would venture to say SOMETHING is going on.


JUST SAYIN!!!!!

Also Bondi what the fuck crawled up your ass??? You come here being a smartass and rude but than tell someone who gave it back to shut the fuck up cause they don't know you???

What made you the expert on saying this dudes wife doesn't love him anymore. You come right in telling him she don't love you blah blah blah are you Dr. Phill?? Have you interviewed them, than he replies and you get all anal WTF is that all about.


If you don't like this place so much why are you back??? Why not just stay at Puppet's board the one that doesn't exist supposedly?? I mean if you bring back the old fun loving bondi great but if this is what people BEGGED you to come back for than maybe they got issues too.

Just my opinion.

thank you Diane , its not a big deal to me at all . but I apreciate your comments , I have a very strong marriage its just were all different in many ways , in our needs and our wants and our beliefs , the point I was making was simple , I tried to buy affection and when it didnt work I switched to not being so material , Im not mean by anyways , I just quit buying her things at every wim , and I think our relationship as become much stronger because of it , and I know our sex life has gotton much better , but thank you very much Di for your kind comments .

No problem some times newer people get UNDESERVED bashings it shocks me anyone sticks around that is new. Glad you didn't let it get to you.

I have said this a hundred times ... but what's a hundred and one


The reason Bad boys and assholeish dudes get the girls is that the asshole personality conveys a confidence about them. Girls dig that confidence.

The lovely ladies of RMM can back me up here ...

Which guy would you go out with at first....

1. A good looking guy who came right up to you and threw a few choice compliments and was sure of himself not to the point of arrogance but took charge somewhat.

or....

2. A good looking guy who barely looked at you due to shyness who made awkward passes to the point of personal embarassment and stammered and stumbled in the first contact speak to you.


#1 and #2 are the same dude but with different approaches.

#1 and #2 have same cock size, sexual ability and etc. but which one would you want to fuck first?

#1 will usually turn out to be an asshole once you get to know him while #2 could be a price charming but would you even bother trying to get to know him?


Discuss

Ummm.....Can I have both.....

at the same time?

You are right C man, but there is a line between a confident guy and a real asshole. I have been with all of the above.

A woman also can feel protected by a guy you know wont take shit, like with my husband he was always that asshole guy and more than just confident, but one thing I liked about him always is I know he would never let a guy disrespect me without kicking his ass.

I have seen him get in about 6 physical fights since being together about 5 of those was from a guy disrespecting me. HE also loves to fight.

But as I got older I decided allthough I like some of the pluses of that jerk of a guy the bad parts far outwieghed the good and I was no longer willing to put up with that, I would much rather have the nice romantic guy now.

Still dont want a puss especially for my personality I need a guy that is not a puss BUT I dont want to have the constant fighting and I want to feel truly loved.


That is when you hope as you get older the man your with matures also my husband started going to therapy to cope with me leaving him cause he was having a really hard time with it unlike I have ever seen he has always been such a manly man but he was having a total mental breakdown with me leaving, anyway he started therapy try and cope with it better and it has changed him a LOT I am now seeing a side of him I have never seen before that NICE GUY side and it is really nice, he still goes to therapy which is good cause he has a lot of issues from growing up I have always known about and its about time he has finally realized this and got help, but he has been romantic and nice and I dunno for a woman and for me it sure is a lot nice to feel like you are your husbands number 1.

Well cool hon

That is usually the undercoating of the asshole personality too.... its a front... Im glad your hubby is coming to terms with whatever was fucking with him from his past.

so you will get a combo of #1 and #2 now... a confident #1 with a soft side #2

I think you should add to that Cman

#1 looks like he has no money as he is digging for change to buy a drink

#2 pulls out a wad of cash and buys a round because he is a nice guy but shy and loaded.

I think nowadays finiancal security counts alot in relationships
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When i came to this board i realized quickly that there are nice people and there are not so nice people and the thing that i usually find is that the younger the person and less experienced in life they are the not so nice they become , I guess in my 40 yrs i have done several things that most havent , so we move on and enjoy the day as it may be our last .. Take great care lovely lady and thanks for sticking up for me , you dont find that very often this day and age ..

You should see where I came from

Because I generally don't trust people, especially people I don't know and, sorry, mostly of all a guy who I don't know that likes me, I would go for neither. I have to know someone somewhat before I'll even consider it and even then I'm warry. I've had guys who I've seen quite a few times in the period of a year who don't know I'm married ask me out and right away my first response even before I remember I'm married is no. I don't think I could ever be a one night stand kind of girl because of that. I'd be nervous the whole time that he was going to turn into a jerk, hold me against my will, I'd get stranded or worst of all raped. The guys who always got the girls because they were hot or confident or whatever always turned me off. Oh I'd hope they liked me or at least thought I was attractive but other than that nothing. I don't think I've gone for the bad-boy type. But that's just me.

No problem it is who I am, I am young only 26, 27 this year but I have gone through a whole shit load of stuff in my life so I think it has seriously aged me LOL

But I agree I notice more in younger men I think also it has to do with a cockyness they have and Im better than the world attitude want to think they have a high statue in this world to make them feel they are worth something.

That is what I have seen a lot anyway out and about in real world and online. Anyway welcome to the board and heres to hopping you stick around

Did you come from blows???


I seen sites where it is just constant flaming. Not really my thing I like to have real conversation and debates and stuff so I usually take a left at those boards, LOL

WEll Im planning on staying a good lady friend of mine invited me here and ive stayed and I get to see her pics as well so its all worth it , You are very mature for 27 my dear and sexy as hell I might add .. back at ya