I wonder if I'm the only one who is sick of not having sex? It's been almost 2 years since I got any. I've been really horny lately and I've been struggling with if I should go outside my committed relationship so I can get what I want. My s.o. says they're horny(first time in almost a year) but then when I go to initiate sex I get turned down. I'm so frustrated and tired of just masturbating.

I wouldn't like it if my husband went outside our marriage for sex unless it was something we decided together. I don't keep him waiting around for it either, but I still would feel betrayed. Have you talked about it? I would start there. We have a fairly adventurous physical relationship, if we lacked that for a extended period, I would want to know why.

I am no sex therapist. But I have heard this story over and over again. I have two options that I know has worked. One. Go to your partner and tell them you are frustrated and they are not giving you what you need. I know a couple who agreed like we will have sex every 3 days and there is no guessing, not that romantic to set days but it works. Maybe it is 1 day a week, set the day. Maybe it pushes a day. But in general this works
Another thing that has worked is introduce a routine, most women's complaints is it is a lot of work. Or they don't want a marathon and then sometimes not orgasm. Introduce a toy a rabbit works great, use it on her together, takes about 5-8 minutes and she can have multiple clitoral orgasms and then she will be ready for you to fuck her. She will have a g-spot orgasm much quicker as you fuck her and she will be hot and ready wanting more