Funny isn't it? He now lives with his mommy...and lives on the couch. His mom lives in a dead end town...whereas my apartment is right in the city. So I'm sure he knew what he was doing...now he doesn't have to worry about bills or any other "adult" responsibilities...

DY,
Sorry to hear about your breakup. As the others have said here, I think in the longrun it will be a great thing for you even if it hurts now. You have a lot of support here from some very nice people. We can all help you get through this.

Hold your head up high and know that you are a beautiful girl inside and out. In time you will feel better. In the meantime if there is anything we can do, just drop us a line. We are your friends here.

Cman I'll hold the asshole down while you beat him. When you get tired, lend me the costume and I pick up where you left off.

here's a prototype of the clown clostume

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Okay. I'm coming in late on this, but here I go anyway.. just cuz there's a soft spot in my heart for you DY

But first I must say:

1) who knew Bondi had insight like that? I thought he was just a simpsons encyclopedia.

2) who knew Gnappy had insight like that? I thought he was just a simpsons encyclopedia.

3) CM, that was fucking Hilarious!!!! the clown beating story was great... but the reasoning behind it is killer... just so he has to tell the story. I love it. But then you go and edit a picture and post it. You are tops, man!! Well done!!

Okay, DY, here's my dribble for ya. I won't rehash all the good things that everyone else here has told you. but I will point out one or two things that everyone missed. and as a side note, since 7th grade all my really close friends have been female, so I hvae a lot of background with this kind of thing.

Your post that explains what happened also explains the "why." You said (through inferences anyway) that this guy was basically a loser with no direction. His family was not a positive influence in the get a life department and aspirations likely were never anything he was brought up with. So now here comes you, a gorgoeous, fun-loving girl with personality and wit who actually gives a shit about him. It seems like he sees being with you as work. He can be with you and go to classes, get a job, be in an intelligent adult relationship as opposed to a few week relationship built on nothing more deep than physical attraction... or he can live status quo with his mom where there are no demands or expectations. He has lived his life surrounded by people who just don't give a shit. I betcha his dad abused his mother and that's why he thought it was okay to abuse you. And look at where his mom ended up... believing she was no better than working a shithole job and living in a dead-end area. looking at his life with his parents is like looking in the crystal ball for his future life. He is going nowhere... and he chooses to go nowhere. Status quo is easy for him and that's all that will ever make him happy. Aspiring anything more would be work for him and he's never had to work for anything before because his parents probably never gave a shit anyway. His complacency will never change.

Now, as for the 3-some thing 2 weeks later. I guarantee he had that set up before he left... that probalby was the stimulus to his leaving. He saw an opportunity and he saw you as a roadblock. Because he has no perception of a normal human being's feelings he acted on impulse and took the shortest route to acheiving his goal of hanging out with those girls. He couldn't work his way into that 3some with you around, hence his comment about having to spend so much time with you, so he decided to remove the obstacle... you.

Now, you can continue to look in the past all you want... that will help you to understand the pain... but that's only half of it. The most important thing you need to figure out is how to deal with and get over the pain... which is all things you must do in the future.. Rehashing and sorting out the details is not pain relief... it is only pain disclosure.

You next step is to find what makes YOU happy!!! and making others happy is not the right answer. if you like to read, then read. If you like to take nude pictures of yourself and post them here, then do just that. if you like to meet new people for the sake of friendship, then do that and enjoy that knowing that you're buidling alliances/comrades for all situations, good and bad. I would also suggest prayer and meditation

I think a good next step would be to take your classes and enjoy that, along with reading and other activities you like. Confide and take comfort in your family... who will ALWAYS be there for you. Meet friends at school. Study-buddies are a great way to meet people. and a bit of advice about meeting people at school. If a guy from class asks you out, he's likely only attracted to you phsycially. If a guy from class wants to study with you, or sit with you at lunch and have an actual give-and-take conversation, he's likely after attracted to you intellectually... and physically (any man would be a complete fool not to be attracted to you phsycially).

Okay. I should probably end this cuz this post is getting long (even for me). And the bossman is lurking around the corner and I know he knows I'm on the Internet screwing around instead of actually working.

Look how many people are here who care about you, DY. you're a great person. Dont give anyone the power to make you think otherwise and certainly don't let anyone but you control your mood.

You're in my thoughts and prayers.

...Just pretend I said a good chunk of that too

And on another note...

I'm pretty sure (like 99%) that if you ask any one of us you'd find that if you had any problem... you could talk to any of us and we'd be an ear to you. I'm 100% positive that I would be willing... Cman would too just because he's Cman... anyone who comes up with murderous clowns has to be trustworthy

"Don't worry be happy"

Well said Dr. Bob

Regaining your sense of humour is a great start



Your funniest post ever C Man



I guess I'm a little from column A and a little from column B

Lvry boy...you could just give him a mean look and he would wet himself...hes too much of a coward in all honesty..LOL..

Thank you for giving me support....thank you very much.

Bobaloo...I am just moved to tears by your post. I do not think a therapist could have been more perceptive.

My ex (let's call him S) actually lost his dad last october to a drug overdose. His dad had a very nasty habit. And his family (mom and sisters) was never that friendly with me at all...in fact once before they called me "prissy" to my face! Unreal. Here I took S and transformed him so much, I suspect his mom was a little jealous...could be wrong though.

My Grandfather is a preacher and I went with him to church the other day. It was so soothing. Now I can go and enjoy myself b/c 'S' NEVER wanted to go to church. He thinks religion is a crutch, how sad is that? He needs something to believe in more than anyone right now.

He may have had that threesome lined up, maybe not...but I know that I do not need to behave in such a way. I want to reflect.

My mother is shocked also as I am. She saw how hard he was trying and his transformation was remarkable..but he just had a "meltdown". Now on his myspace his slogan is "beer and boobs"....he sure is a classy guy isnt he?

We just came back from the beach tonight (mom, sis and I) and as we were laying out a man near us was asking my mom about me. When my sister and I went to the water he asked my mom how old I was, what I was studying and was I wearing sunscreen (Im pale and I did get burnt badly actually). Anyway he is in his mid thirties, a financial manager of sorts...it was really neat that such a great guy was interested in me I think!

So what Ive learned from this really bobaloo is that people cannot change. 'S' comes from a bad family and that is WHO he is. I am not to blame, he is just who he is.

Thank you Mr.Trent. And as emotional as this sounds...this website is filled with such wonderful caring people. I am so lucky to have met them. And if I can help in any way with anyone please ask. I love to listen! Reading all these posts the past few days really has given me strength through this.

I know now I can get through this. All men are not this type,like "S". I feel sorry for him. He is going nowhere. He is so simple. How could any intelligent being find satisfaction in a companionship with someone like that? He really did me a favor. I am so blessed to have such a loving family and look at what HE came from. I should pray for him. He is just pathetic...poor guy.

AMEN!!!

Wow this thread is like one big online Dr Phil

...only we arent overpaid hacks


And it's great that we can all pitch in and help. It's also an indicator to you; you're worth it. We are spending time here, and to see that you will feel better makes it all worthwhile and then some.

And I'll have to keep your offer in mind

Just keep being you, and know that you're perfect the way you are.

Well Im not overpaid

What a bunch of swell guy's Rehab in prison must really be working for some of them ........

...who knows
some kind and good words though

DY hope it works out for ya ( which of course it will )
maybe you should post some new pics of yourself just to help us cope withDY withdrawal I don't know how much longer I can go on! ( you did say just ask )

How come preachers always have the hot daughters??

dy,

i'm gonna try to keep this short b/c i think everyone here has pretty much covered everything... for as much of a group of idiots as we sometimes are, there are some great thoughts in here, lol.

i initially was going to stop reading after the "he beat me up" comments and post my reply... because NOBODY has the right to knock someone else around... and i have a feeling you know that now and won't ever let yourself be in a relationship where that happens... but it can't hurt to hear it from an objective party, so hopefully that sinks in.

i know it hurt to lose him, even more to see what he's doing now... but deep down, you know you're better off without him in the long run. you said it sucks for you now b/c you feel alone but you know that won't last. you're doing some great things that you love, which will lead to meeting people that share your passions... and ultimately those will form the foundations of the friendships, and the love of your life that i have no doubt you will meet, that will last a lifetime.

if it helps to talk to us, talk... if it helps to sit quietly alone, pray and reflect, then do that... just make sure to do what YOU want to do, to live YOUR life, and to always be aware of the world around you... i know you're a creative soul at heart, and i have a feeling that your true awakening in life will come when you let your senses be open to everything around you... and when that happens, you'll be able to look back on this time and hopefully see it as one of the keys to that transformation

Spot on brother.... you do not wish that upon your worst enemy!

My $.02

Its unfortunate that you had to endure such crap from such a complete shit for nothing zero.

It may mean nothing for some people that a bunch of anonymous maniacs from a boob site say your a sweetheart, cause hey, We REALLY DONT know you but....

From one of the many boobie maniacal fans you have here I give you a and a because you have made it to a place that is most important for you right now.

You found you own self worth and self confidence and you now realize you dont need anyone to validate who you are. YOU validate yourself. Well done DY and best of luck in your future.

I just wanted to thank my wonderful caring friends on here again. And to turn this to a positive note I would like to share a few personal pictures (not R-rated LOL).
The first one is from my 25th birthday dinner with lil sis and mom and her partner. And the second pic is of me and my dad's side of the family...my grandfather who is a preacher is on the right..best grandfather ever!

You're a lucky woman to have such a nice family around.

Keep being awesome

Just as beautiful clothed DY... It is no wonder you have done some modelling

great pics DY, thanks for sharing with us schlubs.

Nice looking Family and you look marvelous..

But does anyone find it alittle strange, besides me, to post pics of your family on a Rate My Melons Site
just thinking out loud
probably get blasted for not being "sensitive"

Hey DY, great pics, you have a big family. so must be the oldest?

Maybe strange to someone like you. But what is the name of this thread..go look...it says MY name. I can post whatever the flap I want. IF you don't like it leave. HAve a super day!

In the big family shot I am sitting on the far left...and my little sister (20) is next to me..I am the second oldest...I have a cousin in FL who is 27. But yes it is a big family not everyone was even pictured here.

Thank you ! I actually am doing a shoot this afternoon. I can post a couple here later on ...

can't wait!

and continue "posting whatever you like". I kinda enjoy it.

I'm all for that. Please continue to post whatever you like. I'll be sitting here on standby drooling.

I swear I know two people in the family pic... they look so familiar, it's very uncanny. The guy at the top right and the blonde below him... are they married by any chance???