Hi all, I am a newbie to the site. I joined because i thought you all would be the only ones that could probably help.

I am a 23 y/o who has a problem. I am getting married in july(thats not my problem). I love my wife to be but i cant help but look at other women. I masturbate almost once a day sometimes twice. We have sex on a regular basis but i just cant seem to help myself. I feel that it will eventually get me in trouble someday. I dont cheat on her, i may flirt with a girl or two but thats as far as it goes because i dont have the time to have multiple relationships nor do i feel that i need to cheat on her. This is becoming a long post but i need help. I need to know how to expand our sex life? and i need to find out what i can do to control my masturbation? If anyone can provide their opinion i would greatly appreciate it.

Thanks,

how is masturbating going to get you into trouble one day? unless you happen to be be jerking off on another woman's face.
it's better than cheating on you lady.

as far as expanding your sex life, just take some time and read some threads on this site. you'll get more than enuff ideas.

and if all else fails, try the fabled "rusty hook"

That is all.

what is "rusty hook"???

It is better then cheating but is it normal? I think there is something seriously wrong with me. Should i seek a help? It gets me in trouble becuz it got me in trouble once. I fooled around with one of my boys sister and lets just say that he found out that i "kissed" her and things have never been the same..... The ironey is that he is suppose to be my best man....

How do i get my wife to be, to be more experimental or more open..... or where can i find a topic that can help me?

Dude you gotta relex. Men just HAVE to masturbate.... and some more than others. Why? Because we can thats fucking why.

I am getting married next year and my sex life is ace, but fuck I still spank the monkey once a while. Not as much as you but all it means is that you have a very high sex drive and I would use that as a positive rather than a negative.

In regard to looking at other women... once again, you are a man. Its natural. Just because you have already ordered doesn't mean you can't browse through the menu

If you're really sure that all with your marriage is ok, then masturbation is not a problem.

If you got in trouble once before from masturbating by fooling around with someone that I would think it wasnt the masturbation??? Cause if you were doing that than why were you cheating???


As a woman, if you want to wank off 5 times a day that is ok by me just be ready to give it to me when Iw ant it. I have a friend and her husband is a "tool" anyway he will tell her he isnt in the mood for sex or blow her off and shit than go masturbate now that is a little fucked up IMO but if you guys are having sex often and you still need to handle your business nothing wrong with that.


As far as looking that is human nature. Not just for me, I have seen good looking guys before and cant help but give a smile to them or do a double take or little flirty things it is something I dont even noitce until after.

Not sure if my post helped but oh well. Get her on the boards we will open her up a bit

Yea what Diane said.


And as far at the masturbating thing take care of your business as long as you are taking care of hers too. It's perfectly natural to .


OH yea, welcome to the boards

i always take care of her she is my #1.

As far as getting her on the board dont think that could be possible. Earlier in my relationship i use to visit a porn site and talk to a couple of ladies and paid for their services. I really just wanted it for the female interaction. The nudity meant little to me. Well she found out and thought that she was doing something wrong. I tried to tell her that it wasnt anything she was doing but thats like trying to sell snow to an eskimo. Anyways, i know she has a freak inside her becuz it comes out of her every now and then. How should i try and bring it out of her on a more frequent occasion????????? I try to tell her that its ok but she is still afraid.......

She said she would rather strip for complete strangers becuz it doesnt matter what they think..... but it matters what i think so she is hesitant to do it for me???

You're human...masturbation is natural. You're a guy...masturbation frequently is natural and looking at other beautiful woman is natural. If my husband didn't look at other woman, I'd know he was just trying not to when I'm around and that's bull shit. There's nothing wrong with admiring a beautiful human form, male or female. I'm married and I still look at other men and flirt. But like Bondi said (I think it was bondi), just because you ordered, doesn't mean you can't look at the rest of the menu. At the end of the day, you're with her, not someone else. Now, as for her opening up more and gettin' freaky...that will come in time. Sounds like she has to be comfortable with herself first then she'll be more comfortable with you. Tell her on a regular basis that she's beautiful, that you love her hips, etc.

She is very beautiful and i make sure that she knows that i think she is.

I am a breast/leg/ass man and she knows this but she feels that she is inadequate becuz she has smaller boobs. I tell her its not always the size but the quality and that i think her boobs are perfect but she seems to think that i want a woman w/ Triple Z....lol..... So she wants to get implants... i tell her look if you want to get the implants you get them becuz its gonna make you feel better not becuz i like big boobs.

I would do anything to please her becuz she does everything to try and please me.

How old is she?

Figure out a way, that won't get you into trouble, to get her to come to this site and read some of the comments the guys post about the wonmen's racks. There are lots of guys that like small breasts and if she see this, she may start to have some confidence.

she is 26.

well it's probably the female interaction part she was most pissed about, as it was probably an emotional bond you were developing with these ladies that she did not like.

As a female, I can say that this is probably true.

No offense...she sounds immature, or more likely, not enough self-confidence. Are you sure you want to marry someone that you're afraid to be you around?

its not that i cant be me. Its that i want her to be more open with me, i want to open her up. It takes time and i am willing to spend the rest of my life trying to open her up. I know that once she opens up, what happens after that is going to be nothing but pure extasy. I have seen glimpses of it and it probably the closes thing to ski diving/Bunji jumping/ and the most erotic sensations all put together. Its hard to explain but all i know is for those 3 hours i was as hard as a rock with no failure what so ever........ And i wasnt on anything either...... it was the purest most sensual experience we have ever had in our lives.

Awesome! Well, if you're willing to work with her and help build up her confidence, then go for it. Other than getting her drunk, I'm not sure there's a ready-made way to get her to open up.

As hemale I agree

you could try a speculum

OK that was in poor taste, but most stuff I post is..at least I didn't post the pic.

Thank the lord for small miracles!

Usually you'd post the pic. Who are you and what have you done with Gnappy?!

Is a hemale all man, or a female in touch with her masculine side?

Hmmmm, it's an undefined word. We can make it whatever we want. Diane? Got anything to say about this?

A he with a great set of man boobs

Yeah in the prove it post I said I was really a man

Is it wrong to like man boobs if they look like yours?

No but it does make the men here slightly ummm into men:P

LOL And we all know how men are about other men...homophobic.

If wanting to play with Diane's then there's not a single ounce of me that's homophobic







for the slams I'm about to get from that.

A sick and twisted part of me was dissapoined by this comment

I don't want to hear about you getting slammed, not that there's anything wrong with that.

Great I never knew what it looked like when the doc was doing that to me now I do.


I have though seem my insides on a big screen tv with about 10 other people in the room gotta love the naval hospital

wtf? are u sure that was a hospital? lol

Yes at the military hospitals they view every thing as a training exp so when anything is wrong with you they call in the whole fleet to come check it out.

I had my first son at the naval hospital and all kinds of folks were coming in and out. Even some sweaty man out for a jog stopped in while I was contracting and I drew the line and lost it on them.

whoa, that's almost too weird even for me...

almost

Yeah no more naval hospitals for me thank god.

haha.... I was just thinkging the other day.... do you know what my thread is lacking? A picture of a very open pussy! haha

Gnappy... u r a sick individual

Is there something wrong? My only suggestion might be to watch the movie Hitch and see if you can draw any inspiration or parallelisms from that.

aww yer making me blush

I never knew I was THAT big