I haven't had sex with my boyfriend for months. It's been a whole "who'll give up first thing". Well, I quit, and I'm going over there after I drink a couple of beers. Should I do it?

i think the bigger question is why did you start not doing it in the first place?

I decided if he didn't want to work and help me with the bills I didn't want to have sex with him.

sounds like you two need to sit down and talk about the underlying issues before you hop in the sack.... but if you do talk it out, by all means, hop away!

We've talked it out a million times. He's never gonna work, and I'm going to pay for everthing forever. It sucks, but I love him.

hmmm sounds like this could be on Springer lol. but honestly, even being a dude, I would say move on to better things. If not having sex is not a motivator to get a job and help your lady out, I don't think anything is. While I'm not a fan of withholding sex for stuff, but since you did and it's lasted this long, I gotta wonder what this guy is up to.

just on the surface, seems like this love is a one-sided thing....
don't like to judge, becuz there's always two sides of the story - but from this angle, sure looks like he's playin ya....

Here here Gnappy... I HATE how women use witholding of sex as a blackmail tool but girl you just have to wake up and smell the coffee...

The guy is using you, and if isn't going to work to help you out I don't think he is a man at all.

With your body and personality I am sure a much more suitable man will come along very soon

Nik, you need to get that bat out and whip his ass, I know you have feelings for him, but damn, If he's not going to get a job, even for a day, to get in your pants, he is the laziest dude alive. Hell, I would get another job to get in your pants