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Posted by: ads1 Jun 24 2006, 10:31 AM

I have had and love the fantasy of watching my wife with another man/men.

I know that she enjoys people looking at her and playing over her pics, but she will not committ to trying it for real.

I would never force her and love her so much, but I have the urge to see her in action. when I last asked outright, she agreed (during sex) but afterwards didn't seem interested and stopped discussing the matter.

I cannot bring this up in conversation but know she is aware of my feelings as she has caught me out on the net numerous times.

Should I push for this fantasy or leave well alone?

My feelings are that i should find a well known car park, stop play and see what happens. I feel I would walk away satisfied but am scared to try.

any ideas??

ta ads xx

Posted by: Lynette Jun 24 2006, 05:40 PM

I think your fantasy is a reasonably normal one. I'm sure a lot of men have this one. However, pushing any woman into something like that would be a mistake. It's got to be something that just kinda happens due to cercumstances. Maybe at a small, well, orchestrated get-together with another man, drinking, and suggetive behavior might prime the pump. But, if she resists in any way, you should put the breaks on or risk damaging your relationship.
Good luck

Posted by: ddd35 Jun 24 2006, 08:34 PM

Good Luck < i think several men fantasize about this , but if and when it happens im not sure most could go thru with it , theres always the fear of , What if she liked him better ? what if they hook up again by themselves ? , what if she leaves me for him ? and Im sure there are many more . I have tried to get my wife to do this a few times and most recently with a younger college guy that we met while staying at a hotel for our anniversary , he was there for a frat alumni party .. WE just couldnt go thru with it . he was willing and she was for a bit but just couldnt finish what we started .. So my advice would be take it slow dont push its liable to cause more harm then good ....

Posted by: evade20 Jun 25 2006, 07:32 AM

You could ask for it for your birthday, dude. Happy Birthday. Oh and welcome to RMM.

Posted by: bondiguy Jun 25 2006, 10:49 PM

If she does go ahead with it forward me a pic and I may offer my services...
free of charge!

Posted by: Gnappster Jun 26 2006, 12:10 AM

that would be in stark contrast to the norm of bondi paying for sex


Hey-Oh!

Posted by: bondiguy Jun 26 2006, 01:28 AM

Well then why did your wife pay me last time? I guess I owe her a refund!!!

BAM!!!

Posted by: Assfucker Jun 26 2006, 07:11 AM

Details bro, details

Posted by: Gnappster Jun 26 2006, 10:47 AM

She got change back from a dollar and she still said it was a ripoff

ZING!

Posted by: Gnappster Jun 26 2006, 10:49 AM

I don't get that part? How will that help you find a dude to bang your wife?

Maybe she'd like to try it out with a girl first.

Posted by: juicyboobs Jun 26 2006, 10:59 AM

I think he means a ''dogging'' carpark.... you know lights on stuff..... (no i have no a clue about what means what)

Posted by: Bobaloo Jun 26 2006, 01:48 PM

She probably paid you so you would leave!

Posted by: bondiguy Jun 28 2006, 12:37 AM

Hey... she gave me change in Canadian dollars so I turned a profit... and had a good night! Whoever said she had to enjoy it?

Posted by: Gnappster Jun 28 2006, 02:58 PM

yeah, I give her the same story

Posted by: bondiguy Jun 28 2006, 11:26 PM

Thats the Australian way

Posted by: Gnappster Jun 29 2006, 04:38 PM

spotted at least I think so

Posted by: UncleBuck Jun 29 2006, 04:58 PM

STEP AWAY FROM THE FANTASY!

you are giving your wife the open invitation to cheat, sure she may let you watch the first few times....but, what if she prefers another over you *
she probably never would cheat but could you trust her after that, say when she is on a nite out on the town with the girls?
just my thoughts but I have been there and done that


*what if it was someone say from... Saskatchewan who has a little penis but likes to cuddle after sex how would you compete with that

Posted by: bondiguy Jun 30 2006, 02:16 AM

On the ball... changed American to Australian

Posted by: MichaelDavid Jun 30 2006, 08:11 PM

It’s scary, to be sure. Sex is such a crapshoot, ya know? You might start out just "having fun", but lots of that ends up in marriage, huh? Some women have a powerful need to be protected and sheltered by their man and introducing another guy may make her feel cheapened, somehow less "precious" to you. Surely this doesn't describe all women and some find such stuff the spice of life, but I think any attempt to coerce — even gently — is playing with fire. I've heard too many stories of guys who did this and then it blew up in their face. Like others have said, she might find she has a taste for it and what if you find the reality wasn't the turn-on you expected? Now you've got a lady who is eager to play leapfrog and you opened Pandora's Box.

My opinion is "open marriage" is seriously tough stuff. At the very least it takes two *very* secure people who are fully committed to their relationship lasting. But love is no respecter of the ties that bind, once a heart is stirred for another, going back is near impossible. I think the very best thing you can do is sit down and ask to talk about it, and make a sincere promise to never speak of it again if she wishes. The fact that she doesn't want to talk about it any further though seems like a pretty good indicator that you are close to (or already have) hurt feelings.

My opinion is, you made your play and she said no, that pretty much ends the issue unless *she* re-opens it. Your best action might be to ask her if your effort to get her to do that has hurt her in some way, ask it honestly and with passion. Usually when a woman isn't talking about something, she wants to talk about it, just not the way YOU want to talk about it. Tread lightly my friend cause yo ass may be a hangin' over the abyss. Just my opinion though, take it as such.

Posted by: allmebaby Jul 31 2006, 05:01 PM

Ok me and my husband have a great relationship. We both have sex with others but only with each other there. I disagree with it giving one of us an open invitation to cheat. I would never go behind my husbands back and be with another person male or female. Although I can not talk for him I am sure he would never do it also. It does take a strong relationship to pull it off. We have been married almost 8 years and I could never be without him. Besides I don't think he would leave me for another woman because he gets to have awesome women and me too. And mostly I would rather share him with another woman. It turns me on like nothing else.

Just sayin'

Posted by: evade20 Aug 1 2006, 01:01 PM

You've got a great relationship going, Allme.

Posted by: Blond Bombshell Aug 1 2006, 07:02 PM

I'm right there with you babe!

Posted by: bondiguy Aug 2 2006, 03:05 AM

As long as the pieces of bread never touch I'd like an allme meat sandwhich!

Posted by: paybarraman Aug 2 2006, 09:49 AM

I wouldn't want to watch my wife fucking another guy.

Posted by: sweetnsexy Aug 2 2006, 08:18 PM

Ah, so you make her go upstairs while you watch the football?

Posted by: jrock8 Aug 2 2006, 08:59 PM

BAM!! lmao

Posted by: paybarraman Aug 2 2006, 09:55 PM

DAMN Sweet!!!! That fucking hurt and was completely uncalled for!!

Posted by: bondiguy Aug 3 2006, 04:36 AM

One of your funnier posts

Posted by: allmebaby Aug 3 2006, 06:56 PM

Pay baby when it comes to him getting to do as a man what ever he wants it is amazing what you guys would watch!!

Posted by: paybarraman Aug 3 2006, 10:16 PM

Im not sure I follow this Allme, but I willingly admit my hypocracy in this thread.

Yes, there are many married/attached women on this site that I would love to have sex with or fantasize about. But, I still wouldn't want MY wife fucking anyone but me.

Just me.

Posted by: bondiguy Aug 4 2006, 01:02 AM

Pay what I think she means is you would watch your wife have sex with another male/female if you were given 100% freedom to fuck other hotties with your wife watchingand or participating!

It is amazing what you'll agree to do when little Pay gets excited

Posted by: allmebaby Aug 5 2006, 12:03 PM

That is what I meant. thanks bondi.

Posted by: stevieboy Aug 5 2006, 05:12 PM

This is a very strange thing for most men I think. It drives me absolutely wild to know that my wife was with anyone before me, let alone watching her do the deed with another guy. The strange thing is...if my wife asked me if I'd mind tossing a girl into the mix and the 3 of us getting together, I'd be all for that...I think most men would. It'd be the most wildly erotic thing in the world for me to screw my wife while another girl sucked me off or something like that...but as for a guy screwing my wife...I draw the line.

Seems very one-sided and unfair...but I think its a normal reaction...don't know why

Posted by: bondiguy Aug 7 2006, 02:24 AM

You're welcome hun

Stevieboy it would be some achievement to fuck one woman and be sucked off by another at the same time.... U got 2 cocks?

Posted by: juicy_DD Aug 7 2006, 04:23 PM

Posted by: stevieboy Aug 7 2006, 05:52 PM

nope...but I got a tongue and willing fingers...I am sure I could work something out

Posted by: bondiguy Aug 8 2006, 12:57 AM

but the actual act of fucking involves ur cock and to be sucked off also involves your cock, combining the 2 at the same time is an impossibility...

DID your mother give you the birds and bees talk?

Posted by: boanna Aug 8 2006, 01:48 PM

well bondi....obviously u are not familiar with a woman who can "suck" with her...uuumm, hoohah! close your eyes, picture it (it may help if u take your pants off and grab your cock), she sucks your cock in deeper with her muscles, not by just pressing harder against u. then when u cum, the little swimmers don't just swim on out and land in a wading pool, she gives them the ride of their life by sucking them out just when they start to swim...they're caught in a current they can't fight against! the whites of her eyes getting whiter are evidence of this event.

hey, don't slam it! if men can say they had sex when really what they did was fuck a woman's mouth, then women can say we suck with our hoohahs!

Posted by: belicked6924 Aug 8 2006, 03:04 PM

I agree with you Bo about the whole being sucked by a woman's "hooha". But how would a 2nd woman suck on it at the same time

Posted by: daddymac Aug 8 2006, 03:10 PM

The problem with fantasy's is that they should often stay that way and once acted out can lose their appeal as the mystery has diminished; you should also ask yourself how you would feel afterwards...sometimes those demons can bury deep and cause the lots of hurt.

Try and talk to your wife some more about your fantasy and see if she can indulge the fantasy by talking about it buit knowing that it wont go any further.

By the way, its not weird...i often say these things to my wife during sex and i do get aroused knowing other men can see her pictures on this site but i wouldnt it to go any further.

Good Luck

D

Posted by: COMEDYMAN Aug 8 2006, 03:49 PM

I, for one, would love to get the keggle treatment from you bo!!!!


Oh and since this is the wife sex thread ... sure Id have sex with all your wives, and wipe my nut on the cold side of your pillow

Posted by: boanna Aug 8 2006, 04:35 PM

i am laughing hard here. this c-man post is the best of the day. i should leave now and feel very very satisfied!

(between me and u c-man, no need to wipe your nut on the pillow....boanna enjoys cleaning up...after both of us! dont wanna waste a thing!)

Posted by: boanna Aug 8 2006, 04:37 PM

u left out my little fantacy.....so i assume its ok if me and your wife rub some body parts together? yea, u can watch...but u cant touch.

Posted by: boanna Aug 8 2006, 04:40 PM

i am still thinking about that one. i think if blondie were here, the two of us would have tons of fun figuring it out.

in the mean time, how bout he just leave part of his cock on the outside of the one woman, then the other woman could at least lick it?!

Posted by: boanna Aug 8 2006, 04:41 PM

Posted by: boanna Aug 8 2006, 04:46 PM

i think u should get yourself a good lawyer!

Posted by: bondiguy Aug 9 2006, 01:59 AM

Alas I have but I am sure what is being discussed here is one act of intercourse and another act of oral performed on the one cock at the same time

Posted by: boanna Aug 9 2006, 12:42 PM

u are right, it probably doesnt describe most women, but it does describe me.

its one thing to have a sexual fantasy about being with other men or other women, or all 3 or 8 of u at a time, but i would stop there. just thinking about it once and a while (or looking at it on the internet when i am suppossed to be working) is enough of a turn on and thats what i am really after. if mr bo told me he was bringing another woman home for us to play with, i'd have his bags packed and out on the porch by the time he got home. and i assume he would do the same to me (unless he was drinking rum out of the bottle ). i think single people probably have a lot more emotional freedom in this area. but us married folk (and by the way, WHATS WRONG WITH MARRIAGE ANYWAY!), somewhere along the line, jealousy will enter the scene, which is the beginning of your pandoras box, (was pandora a blond or a redhead?)

on second thought, if mr bo said he was bringing home a woman for us to play with, now keep in mind that i can be sort of a vengeful woman, before i'd throw his ass out, i'd play with the lady myself and then let him watch me run away with her.

Posted by: boanna Aug 9 2006, 12:45 PM

thats why we come here, to act out our fantasy with hundreds of people! it never loses its appeal...there's always a nice new lady coming on with great boobies for me to rub mine against.....while we make u watch!

Posted by: boanna Aug 9 2006, 12:47 PM

yea, u are right, but i have to find SOME place to pick on you!

now come get in the tub with me!

Posted by: COMEDYMAN Aug 9 2006, 01:53 PM

You may wanna have some of our other English members field this question for you. Letting someone else do your wife is pretty common on the Isle.

Posted by: Gnappster Aug 9 2006, 02:13 PM

for real???
Does it work both ways?
Curious to hear how that tradition sprang up lol.

Posted by: COMEDYMAN Aug 9 2006, 02:43 PM

I have several Online English friends who let their hubbys watch while they do other guys.... and pics to prove From the Wolverhampton Birmingham region. Mebbe he should try there

Posted by: stevieboy Aug 9 2006, 05:25 PM

Bo...I know how hot my wife gets me...and I know how hot you are...if you did that for me....wouldn't have to touch anything anyway...the mere sight of that would make me cream...come to thing of it...just thinking of it makes me need to go stroke one off!

Posted by: bondiguy Aug 10 2006, 01:21 AM

Yes Ma'am!