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[sussed2]

Ok so....

Me and the man seem to have this problem in the bedroom that isn't going away.

He doesn't last very long. Now I have never been one to enjoy long sex sessions but I'd like at least 15 or 20 mins!

I thought it would be something that would go away at first because most of my past boyfriends have started off this way (the first few times) but eventually built up a tolerance. But it's been about 3 months now and it hasn't really improved....

He says he's baffled because he's never had this problem before and we thought that if we practiced a lot (lol) it would go away... but sadly it hasn't *sigh*.

We've tried wearing 2 condoms, waiting 20 minutes then going at it again, him trying to think of something else, different positions... but nothing seems to work.

Any suggestions folks?!

Anyone have any insight onto why this could be happening? What am I doing wrong?!

[Karatenami]

I think this is the funniest thread ive ever read lol.

Great advice everyone..

Soo.. for those that dont know, my husband is a martial arts master, he owned 3 martial arts schools at one point, and achieved Mastery after 13 years of daily martial arts practice under a grandmaster who had been training well over 50 years for half of that 13...

I tell you his credentials because as his wife, i confess he lasts longer in the bedroom than anyone ive ever been with [which is a small number, admittedly] but anyone ive heard of either..so
He says believe it or not. The old Kama sutra books work if you study them

Yes relationships take time, and the sexual pillar is one of the three pillars a successful relationship needs. So many women out there just believe great sex isnt for them [ i was one] and that it doesnt exist, or that something must be wrong with them.. its not true.

As a martial artist myself, ive taught myself breathing exercises and stuff to raise my own endurance because hubby out lasts me every time.

When i say kama sutra, i mean the actual.. like.. study book lol.. there are thousands of just porn style knock offs lol.. ive never read it, but hubby explained it all to me in detail, about elephant, horse, mule etc etc..

Anyway! If the man is worth it, keep practicing! Make a rule where you have to finish first before he can! Lol..

Rule one: make sure everyone is happy

Sorry for the rant! /EndRant

[Arnut]

I think this is the funniest thread ive ever read lol.

Great advice everyone..

Soo.. for those that dont know, my husband is a martial arts master, he owned 3 martial arts schools at one point, and achieved Mastery after 13 years of daily martial arts practice under a grandmaster who had been training well over 50 years for half of that 13...

I tell you his credentials because as his wife, i confess he lasts longer in the bedroom than anyone ive ever been with [which is a small number, admittedly] but anyone ive heard of either..so
He says believe it or not. The old Kama sutra books work if you study them

Yes relationships take time, and the sexual pillar is one of the three pillars a successful relationship needs. So many women out there just believe great sex isnt for them [ i was one] and that it doesnt exist, or that something must be wrong with them.. its not true.

As a martial artist myself,  ive taught myself breathing exercises and stuff to raise my own endurance because hubby out lasts me every time.

When i say kama sutra, i mean the actual.. like.. study book lol.. there are thousands of just porn style knock offs lol.. ive never read it, but hubby explained it all to me in detail, about elephant, horse, mule etc etc..

Anyway!  If the man is worth it, keep practicing! Make a rule where you have to finish first before he can! Lol..

Rule one: make sure everyone is happy

Sorry for the rant! /EndRant

really good advice but I don't think I'm taking karate up no time soon

[Karatenami]

really good advice but I don't think I'm taking karate up no time soon

No need, this has nothing to do with martial arts.
Literally its significantly closer to Buddhist "present moment awareness" and mindfulness.
Couple breathing exercises and this dude could easily go 5 minutes longer without trying, 20 if he did try.

Thats it, Kara the sex counselor open for business! Jk jk...

Any exercise is better than zero, never beat yourself up for doing less than you want, instead, change that to " im doing this today" and do it.
Ok so during any physical activity, when breathing, breathe out whenever you are exerting force of any kind... so.. lifting, stepping up onto a rock, thrusting into your wife , pushing a box or pulling a box, lifting a bag of groceries.. these are all exhales. Your body doesnt need inhales as much as it needs exhales. Your body will inhale what it requires, however, we tend to hold our breathe when we exert force, and this is not great in many ways, during sex for example, it causes muscle fatigue and loss of stamina, also, it can make you finish faster.

Breathing controls %80 more things then we think it does with any physical activity, see? No martial arts in that lol