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[desibaba]

After going out with many girls in my life and getting close to 23 yrs of age i have come to one conclusion.Forget all the crap you have learnt from bollywood n hollywood.Forget the sitting at a girl's feet and begging like a dog.Why? Because its the most self destructive thing you can do.For some reason i have seen most girls run away pretty fast when you give them presents,flowers and too many compliments.I guess the reason is they want a guy who's a CHALLENGE.Someone whos nice but at the same time lets them know that hes doing THEM a favor instead of going out with them instead of the other way around.In my experience all the girls i have dated i noticed the ones i was really nice to,gave the flowers and gifts to,Not to mention the compliments were the first ones who dumped me.And then the ones i didnt spend much money on,Never was the first to touch, and gave them the feeling that "i dont care if you like me or not" were the ones who were attracted to me the most.Anyone else agree with that? Girls like guys who are a challenge???

[Kutabacchimae]

On a lot of levels, I want to agree with the first post. I am a man who has believed in doing the right thing all the time. I had become bitter for a while. I think I'm over it but it was hard. Especially when you've had girlfriends who have litterally left you for their dealers, spent their entire time with you longing for the guy that used to beat her, wanted a guy who would spend 24/7 with then (even calling off of work to do that), or who were just looking to trap a guy with pregnancy. I haven't had a girlfriend in over 1 year and I'm not looking to just into anything any time soon. There are prospects and wherever they go, they go. If anything does turn into a real relationship, I'll embrace that, but in the meantime I'm not going to try so hard. I am finding that the less I try the more women I seem to attract. Women don't seem to want a nice guy, they seem to want a bad boy that they can turn into a nice guy. I waiting to find a woman that has outgrown that stage. Either that or get some tatoos and piercings so they think I was a bad boy.

[boanna]

On a lot of levels, I want to agree with the first post.  I am a man who has believed in doing the right thing all the time.  I had become bitter for a while.  I think I'm over it but it was hard.  Especially when you've had girlfriends who have litterally left you for their dealers, spent their entire time with you longing for the guy that used to beat her, wanted a guy who would spend 24/7 with then (even calling off of work to do that), or who were just looking to trap a guy with pregnancy.  I haven't had a girlfriend in over 1 year and I'm not looking to just into anything any time soon.  There are prospects and wherever they go, they go.  If anything does turn into a real relationship, I'll embrace that, but in the meantime I'm not going to try so hard.  I am finding that the less I try the more women I seem to attract.  Women don't seem to want a nice guy, they seem to want a bad boy that they can turn into a nice guy.  I waiting to find a woman that has outgrown that stage.  Either that or get some tatoos and piercings so they think I was a bad boy.

not all true...for me. i married a nice guy, he wasnt. he was a closet asshole. just waited till he "got me" to go back to what he knew best. if he was the asshole first, i wouldnt have looked his direction.

[boanna]

not all true...for me.  i married a nice guy, he wasnt. he was a closet asshole. just waited till he "got me" to go back to what he knew best.  if he was the asshole first, i wouldnt have looked his direction.

now someone needs to stop this thread in its tracks. we come here for fun, to escape the real world. stuff like this needs to be kept for personal messages.

[johnfreak]

now someone needs to stop this thread in its tracks.  we come here for fun, to escape the real world.  stuff like this needs to be kept for personal messages.

lol, you quote yourself, reported your own post, you crack me up babe.. this is actually a good board topic.


for the record, you are all talking about stereotypes... none of which can always apply to all situations..

if you are a guy and you date a gold digger, a girl looking to trap you, etc... it's your own fault, presents and all that other shit are just meant to compliment relationships, not to create them, if you rely on presents to find girls to date/marry, WTF do you expect.

And if you are a girl who likes dating assholes, don't complain about the asshole you're dating or married to... you picked him