[ Outline ] · Standard · Linear+ Catastrophe And Marriage....a Hypothetical Questio, completely non boob related

[girlie_girl]

I have had this discussion with a select few of my friends, and am always surprised by the answers I am given. Maybe it is because I am the hopeless romantic type, and believe there is a storybook romance out there for me someplace. Anyways, this is not a personals add, so I will continue.

Ok, lets set the stage. You are newly married, and madly in love. Things are going wonderfly, and you are planning on conceiving a child within the next year with any luck. Tragically, your mate is in a horrible accident, and as a result is paralyzed from the neck down. Do you stay together?

My answer to this question is yes. The love you have is still there. It is still the same person. However, the guy I was talking to this about said no. He said that he would not LET me stay with him because he would want a better life for me. He also said that if it were the other way around and I was the injured one, he would leave me.

Like I said, maybe it is because I am the hopeless romantic type, but when you get married the vows still say "for better or for worse". I took them seriously the first time (too bad he didn't) and I will take them just as seriously should "I do" ever come out of my mouth again.

What are your views on this?

[paybarraman]

I think we all would like to believe that we would be ready to stay and take care of our loved one regardless.....but unless faced with the situation - I HOPE NO ONE here is eve in the predicament - we will just never know.

The difficulty with Girlie's scenario is the desire to stay with your wife/husband but their desire for you to move on. I think like C-Man a bit and feel the guy wouldnt want his wife wasting her life with him. But I think the woman wouldnt be so quick to let go.

I dunno.....I just am thankful I never have to worry about it.....**knock wood**