[ Outline ] · Standard · Linear+ Catastrophe And Marriage....a Hypothetical Questio, completely non boob related

[girlie_girl]

I have had this discussion with a select few of my friends, and am always surprised by the answers I am given. Maybe it is because I am the hopeless romantic type, and believe there is a storybook romance out there for me someplace. Anyways, this is not a personals add, so I will continue.

Ok, lets set the stage. You are newly married, and madly in love. Things are going wonderfly, and you are planning on conceiving a child within the next year with any luck. Tragically, your mate is in a horrible accident, and as a result is paralyzed from the neck down. Do you stay together?

My answer to this question is yes. The love you have is still there. It is still the same person. However, the guy I was talking to this about said no. He said that he would not LET me stay with him because he would want a better life for me. He also said that if it were the other way around and I was the injured one, he would leave me.

Like I said, maybe it is because I am the hopeless romantic type, but when you get married the vows still say "for better or for worse". I took them seriously the first time (too bad he didn't) and I will take them just as seriously should "I do" ever come out of my mouth again.

What are your views on this?

[Christof]

jesus, tough question my initial reaction was of course i would yes, but after reading some of the other replies im not so sure.

I'm reasonabily sure that if she was the one in the accident I would stick by her, even if she didnt want me too i would try and worm my way back in. At least for a while if we couldnt get it to work and were both unhappy then theres no point sticking it out for either one of us.

If it were reversed it would be upto her, if she wanted to leave straight out id let her if she wanted to stay id let her. Same again though if after a year or whatever neither or us were happy with the situation then id have to be thinking about calling it a day.