[ Outline ] · Standard · Linear+ Catastrophe And Marriage....a Hypothetical Questio, completely non boob related

[girlie_girl]

I have had this discussion with a select few of my friends, and am always surprised by the answers I am given. Maybe it is because I am the hopeless romantic type, and believe there is a storybook romance out there for me someplace. Anyways, this is not a personals add, so I will continue.

Ok, lets set the stage. You are newly married, and madly in love. Things are going wonderfly, and you are planning on conceiving a child within the next year with any luck. Tragically, your mate is in a horrible accident, and as a result is paralyzed from the neck down. Do you stay together?

My answer to this question is yes. The love you have is still there. It is still the same person. However, the guy I was talking to this about said no. He said that he would not LET me stay with him because he would want a better life for me. He also said that if it were the other way around and I was the injured one, he would leave me.

Like I said, maybe it is because I am the hopeless romantic type, but when you get married the vows still say "for better or for worse". I took them seriously the first time (too bad he didn't) and I will take them just as seriously should "I do" ever come out of my mouth again.

What are your views on this?

[Ratt]

I also consider myself a romantic, and my other half often calls me a sap...

The situation you have given us is indeed interesting, and after reading other replies I have thought about it in depth, and this is my answer to you:

I don't know. It is all well and good to think I have good intentions, and I am getting married in 16 days time, If my better half was in an accident I would stick by her thru thick and thin. But the situation might be different if it actually arose. I know that if the situation was reversed and it was me left a mere shadow of my former self, I would speak to the doctor about ending my life - so that it forced my better half to live her life. It would give her closure so that she could feel free to move on. And I would do that because I love her so much I would die for her.