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Have had an interesting expirience lately and thought of questions I wanted to ask the boards.

I just lost a good freind of 5 years not long ago, not to death or anything, but due to the feelings involved in our freindship. Without a long story the basics of it are she had feelings for me, and I must admit I had some for her too, but it became too hard for her to stay friends knowing her and I would never be together, or that it was very unlikely.

Not three days after I began chatting with a nice girl on a game I play online, and we became fast friends, the other night however she revealed to me she has been feeling guilty, and has feelings for me despite her being in a relationship, and I being in one as well. Now I get the impression that its not me in this situation,that it could have been any guy who seemed nice, I feel she might be feeling neglected by her bf, and looking for attention and intimacy elsewhere, and it seems to be interest in an allmost purely sexual nature, but it struck me how quickly the same situation seemed to have developed so closely after the last ended, with my previous freind. In addittion, this new friend talks constantly about how she should avoid certain subjects so as not to tease herself when talking to me, subjects of a sexual nature, but then not 5 minutes later makes some very graphic and teasing comments to me.

My questions are this, do you think its possible for men and women to be friends without attraction and sexual tension getting in the way? And where is the boundary from flirting and play to overt sexual advances, and how does one keep from crossing it without stopping that kind of conversation all together? I enjoy having freinds, and am a bit on the flirty side myself, aaaand dont see an issue with talking, but I dont want to hurt anyone by giving them the impression I am interested in more than that, hearing what my last friend had to go through and making her cry on numerous occasions, I never want to hurt someone that way again if I can avoid it.

Id be curious to know everyones thoughts.

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Have had an interesting expirience lately and thought of questions I wanted to ask the boards.

I just lost a good freind of 5 years not long ago, not to death or anything, but due to the feelings involved in our freindship. Without a long story the basics of it are she had feelings for me, and I must admit I had some for her too, but it became too hard for her to stay friends knowing her and I would never be together, or that it was very unlikely.

Not three days after I began chatting with a nice girl on a game I play online, and we became fast friends, the other night however she revealed to me she has been feeling guilty, and has feelings for me despite her being in a relationship, and I being in one as well. Now I get the impression that its not me in this situation,that it could have been any guy who seemed nice, I feel she might be feeling neglected by her bf, and looking for attention and intimacy elsewhere, and it seems to be interest in an allmost purely sexual nature, but it struck me how quickly the same situation seemed to have developed so closely after the last ended, with my previous freind. In addittion, this new friend talks constantly about how she should avoid certain subjects so as not to tease herself when talking to me, subjects of a sexual nature, but then not 5 minutes later makes some very graphic and teasing comments to me.

My questions are this, do you think its possible for men and women to be friends without attraction and sexual tension getting in the way? And where is the boundary from flirting and play to overt sexual advances, and how does one keep from crossing it without stopping that kind of conversation all together? I enjoy having freinds, and am a bit on the flirty side myself, aaaand dont see an issue with talking, but I dont want to hurt anyone by giving them the impression I am interested in more than that, hearing what my last friend had to go through and making her cry on numerous occasions, I never want to hurt someone that way again if I can avoid it.

Id be curious to know everyones thoughts.

I am friends with quite a few girls I slept with in the past still. I actually look at them now as more family then anything. One I consider my sister and I am planning her wedding haha..... the other, my new gf is friends with her too... we've been to events and house parties with them all. I say it's independent to each situation OP, but yeah. You can be friends with girls even after that. You have to want to.