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I have had and love the fantasy of watching my wife with another man/men.

I know that she enjoys people looking at her and playing over her pics, but she will not committ to trying it for real.

I would never force her and love her so much, but I have the urge to see her in action. when I last asked outright, she agreed (during sex) but afterwards didn't seem interested and stopped discussing the matter.

I cannot bring this up in conversation but know she is aware of my feelings as she has caught me out on the net numerous times.

Should I push for this fantasy or leave well alone?

My feelings are that i should find a well known car park, stop play and see what happens. I feel I would walk away satisfied but am scared to try.

any ideas??

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[MichaelDavid]

I have had and love the fantasy of watching my wife with another man/men.

I know that she enjoys people looking at her and playing over her pics, but she will not committ to trying it for real.

I would never force her and love her so much, but I have the urge to see her in action. when I last asked outright, she agreed (during sex) but afterwards didn't seem interested and stopped discussing the matter.

I cannot bring this up in conversation but know she is aware of my feelings as she has caught me out on the net numerous times.

Should I push for this fantasy or leave well alone?

My feelings are that i should find a well known car park, stop play and see what happens. I feel I would walk away satisfied but am scared to try.

any ideas??

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It’s scary, to be sure. Sex is such a crapshoot, ya know? You might start out just "having fun", but lots of that ends up in marriage, huh? Some women have a powerful need to be protected and sheltered by their man and introducing another guy may make her feel cheapened, somehow less "precious" to you. Surely this doesn't describe all women and some find such stuff the spice of life, but I think any attempt to coerce — even gently — is playing with fire. I've heard too many stories of guys who did this and then it blew up in their face. Like others have said, she might find she has a taste for it and what if you find the reality wasn't the turn-on you expected? Now you've got a lady who is eager to play leapfrog and you opened Pandora's Box.

My opinion is "open marriage" is seriously tough stuff. At the very least it takes two *very* secure people who are fully committed to their relationship lasting. But love is no respecter of the ties that bind, once a heart is stirred for another, going back is near impossible. I think the very best thing you can do is sit down and ask to talk about it, and make a sincere promise to never speak of it again if she wishes. The fact that she doesn't want to talk about it any further though seems like a pretty good indicator that you are close to (or already have) hurt feelings.

My opinion is, you made your play and she said no, that pretty much ends the issue unless *she* re-opens it. Your best action might be to ask her if your effort to get her to do that has hurt her in some way, ask it honestly and with passion. Usually when a woman isn't talking about something, she wants to talk about it, just not the way YOU want to talk about it. Tread lightly my friend cause yo ass may be a hangin' over the abyss. Just my opinion though, take it as such.

[boanna]

It’s scary, to be sure. Sex is such a crapshoot, ya know? You might start out just "having fun", but lots of that ends up in marriage, huh? Some women have a powerful need to be protected and sheltered by their man and introducing another guy may make her feel cheapened, somehow less "precious" to you. Surely this doesn't describe all women and some find such stuff the spice of life, but I think any attempt to coerce — even gently — is playing with fire. I've heard too many stories of guys who did this and then it blew up in their face. Like others have said, she might find she has a taste for it and what if you find the reality wasn't the turn-on you expected? Now you've got a lady who is eager to play leapfrog and you opened Pandora's Box.

u are right, it probably doesnt describe most women, but it does describe me.

its one thing to have a sexual fantasy about being with other men or other women, or all 3 or 8 of u at a time, but i would stop there. just thinking about it once and a while (or looking at it on the internet when i am suppossed to be working) is enough of a turn on and thats what i am really after. if mr bo told me he was bringing another woman home for us to play with, i'd have his bags packed and out on the porch by the time he got home. and i assume he would do the same to me (unless he was drinking rum out of the bottle ). i think single people probably have a lot more emotional freedom in this area. but us married folk (and by the way, WHATS WRONG WITH MARRIAGE ANYWAY!), somewhere along the line, jealousy will enter the scene, which is the beginning of your pandoras box, (was pandora a blond or a redhead?)

on second thought, if mr bo said he was bringing home a woman for us to play with, now keep in mind that i can be sort of a vengeful woman, before i'd throw his ass out, i'd play with the lady myself and then let him watch me run away with her.