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Posted by: COMEDYMAN Sep 8 2005, 08:47 AM
I left a messege in Kianas thread about gettin laid ( yay me 
) BUT I said there were circumstances behind it
I have been seein this girl on and off for the past 5 years now. Thing is.... shes married......
We are great friends outside the bedroom too its just that every now and again we hook up and make each other cum real hard 
We both know what we are doin as far as the cheating thing. She tells me her marriage is basically for the kids and I do things to her that no other man has ( pat on back)
SO know that ya know this ... what do you think about me? Am I a bastard for having sex with a nother mans wife when he doesnt pay any attention to her.
I want honest opinions here, not sugar coating. Cause Im pretty sure Ill still continue doing it 
and a second followup question 
Playing on Cam Girls and Guys Who does it ? ( I do 
)
and is THAT considered cheating if your masterbating and talking dirty with another person aside from your signifigant other... or is it just harmless fantasy
THoughts
Posted by: clincar Sep 8 2005, 09:04 AM
Ist answer - Difficult one!! First you have to ask yourself if this is what you want - occaisional pleasurable sex or something more permanent!!! You are both consenting adults and know each others position within the ralationship. What would happen if her hubby found out, is the main question? If it works for you and your lady, why question it!!!
2nd answer - Have played on cam and been videoed!! 
Sometimes it's exciting other times it can feel strange (in a good sense) and no I don't deem it as cheating, it's having a bit of fun and pleasure at the same time!!
Posted by: Hot mama Sep 8 2005, 09:04 AM
) BUT I said there were circumstances behind it I have been seein this girl on and off for the past 5 years now. Thing is.... shes married......
We are great friends outside the bedroom too its just that every now and again we hook up and make each other cum real hard
We both know what we are doin as far as the cheating thing. She tells me her marriage is basically for the kids and I do things to her that no other man has ( pat on back)
SO know that ya know this ... what do you think about me? Am I a bastard for having sex with a nother mans wife when he doesnt pay any attention to her.
I want honest opinions here, not sugar coating. Cause Im pretty sure Ill still continue doing it
and a second followup question
Playing on Cam Girls and Guys
Who does it ? ( I do ) and is THAT considered cheating if your masterbating and talking dirty with another person aside from your signifigant other... or is it just harmless fantasy
THoughts
playing on cam is not the same. shes MARREID and stil with her husbed that ia cheating. I dont think playing on cam is cheating. but that is me. sorry Cman
Posted by: sussed2 Sep 8 2005, 09:43 AM
Question1 - I'd end it. Out of all the people in the world to sleep with, there's no need to take someone else's wife or husband. But that's me!
Question2 - Up until very recently, no.... lol 
Is it cheating if you have a sig. other....? If they dont know about it and would be upset if they found out, then yes, it's cheating.
Posted by: luvsussed Sep 8 2005, 11:01 AM
I make it a point not to judge others. You recognize it for what it is. If there's no guilt experienced by either party, do as you will.
Personally, I won't even date another woman if I know she has a boyfriend. Lots out there. Finding the right one, now that's another story.
Posted by: COMEDYMAN Sep 8 2005, 11:05 AM
First off folks thanks for you input .. and secondly dont be sorry I want raw honest from the heart answers here.
Don't be afraid to piss me off.. cause I don't get offended I never have been offended by anything involving me SO tear into me if ya wanna
Posted by: Gnappster Sep 8 2005, 12:09 PM
well she's the one who is cheating on her husband. you're not cheating on anybody, so I'd say it's her who is at fault if she is deceiving her husband. On the other hand, what would happen if her hubby found out. It would probably start a whole shit storm that no amount of pussy would be worth the trouble.
Also, is this all this is gonna be? Just casual sex once in awhile? Or is it gonna lead to something else. As long as you have an understanding that it won't go beyond the bedroom, as in one wanting to be in a serious relationship. I don't want to sound sexist here, but a lot of females start to bond and want something more after having sex. Not saying all do, but a lot do. Just make sure you both are on the same wavelength.
and the playing on cam part I wouldn't consider sex but it's as close to cheating as damn is to swearing.
But what the hell do I know about relationships and sex, I'm married. 
Posted by: juicy_DD Sep 8 2005, 12:17 PM
I agree with Gnappy Cman she is the one who is married not you (unless you are really 
), you should do what makes you happy hun...but these things end in tears hun and lots of people get hurt and I like you Cman and I think you will be the one hurt cos she wont leave hubby"cos of the kids 
" that old chestnut! and I would hate to think in a few years time you look at yourself and say after all these years I have been with this person when I could have found happiness and my own family with someone who is totally free....you cant help who you fall for hun just dont limit yourself to this lady if an opportunity comes up with someone else don't promise her you won't take it......
Thinkin of you Cman 
Posted by: COMEDYMAN Sep 8 2005, 12:54 PM
Aww ty Juicy
I have been treading those waters of thought alot Gnapp is why I asked the question. What happens if he does? Do I need a buncha shit right now?
No not married and no love connection here I do love her as a good friend but this is just a friends with some extra cirricular activity. I have no intention of being a reason for a break up. We would be friends still if the sex stopped. I was just wanting to find out what everyone thought of the siuation. Good to get several different views from all walks of life onto an issue
Posted by: closeup Sep 8 2005, 01:33 PM
My response is pretty much the same as Sussed, with the added comment of "Are you SURE the other guy doesn't know?" Maybe he does know and is keeping it to himself, also "for the kids". In a situation like this, expect the unexpected.
Posted by: day4ferris Sep 8 2005, 03:05 PM
I'm not one to quickly judge someone, but sleeping with your married friend is pretty much playing with fire. Am all for letting anyone do what they want to do with themselves or others as long as no one gets hurt in process. And chances are if you two are caught the one's who get burned the most will be the kids. Like Sussed said, too many single women out there to enjoy.
Posted by: jrock8 Sep 8 2005, 03:22 PM
i'm on the same page as most people here, it seems... even if she's the one who's technically cheating, you know about it so that makes you part of it... plus, if she's a friend, odds are you know the guy too... that's just one big problem waiting to explode that you don't want to have to deal with
besides dude, you're in florida... just head down to miami and i bet you could find at least 2 freaky women who would be glad to take her place... probably at the same time 
...but let's go back and talk more about the real hidden secret of this thread... sussed on cam??!!! 
lol
Posted by: juicy_DD Sep 8 2005, 03:53 PM
theres a surprise! ha ha
Posted by: Gnappster Sep 8 2005, 04:03 PM
lolwhat's this about sussed and a webcam?
Posted by: sussed2 Sep 8 2005, 04:18 PM
Webcam?
What webcam?
Who said that?
Posted by: jrock8 Sep 8 2005, 04:22 PM
you did...
well, at least you said something that was vaguely related to it and i decided to extrapolate it into something i wanted to think about, lol
Posted by: sussed2 Sep 8 2005, 04:24 PM
Oh, right...
typo!
Posted by: Narazbad Sep 8 2005, 05:30 PM
honestly cman, i would end it. i know that personally i would feel horrible doing something with someone elses woman, even if there is no love or caring in the other relationship. i understand the Friends with Benifits situation, ive had a few myself, but i guess im like the woman and always grab an emotional attachment to them. im more of the holding and cuddling kinda guy then the wild sex every once in a while. sure, id like the sex, but id much rather have someone to go home to every night and cuddle up with and relax with. *shrug* just me tho
Posted by: bondiguy Sep 11 2005, 12:28 AM
wow CM thats a prickly one....
cheating has one very easy definition:
If you can't tell your partner what you have done, its cheating.
It allows flexibilty. One guy might not mind his girl getting it on with other females but no males while another guy would die at the idea. To one a kiss is a kiss but to others a kiss is cheating. Its a simple rule....
Posted by: Puppet Sep 11 2005, 04:06 PM
Hrmmm ive done this a few time.. and Karma is going to get me... but im a glutton for punishment... Do as you wish but know karma works its wonders
Posted by: bondiguy Sep 12 2005, 02:33 AM
but Karma gives the best head!
Posted by: Hot mama Sep 12 2005, 08:26 AM
puppet you are right there about Karma. eather way Cman I dont wont to see you get hurt. But most of the time it ends up kicking you in the ass. Yes she is the one cheating,but you are taking part in it.Cman are you 100% sure she is not just using you for sex when her hubby is gone. Cman i dont want to hurt you but I think sleeping with her is just wrong. Sorry but that is how I feel About it.
Posted by: Puppet Sep 12 2005, 09:32 AM
or be like me flick off Karma and bone her to the cows come home... i have news for karma.. turning down good Booty is a Sin in the Good Book of Puppet!
Posted by: Hot mama Sep 12 2005, 10:13 AM
Karma will f--- your day up.
Posted by: paybarraman Sep 12 2005, 11:32 AM
Wouldnt mind you f-ing up my day.... 
Posted by: Puppet Sep 12 2005, 02:21 PM
lol
Posted by: Gnappster Sep 12 2005, 03:11 PM
If you can't tell your partner what you have done, its cheating.
so if I masturbate 4 times a day and don't tell my woman about it, is that cheating too? Hypothetically speaking of course...
Posted by: jrock8 Sep 12 2005, 03:43 PM
don't the hairy palms give it away? 
Posted by: Gnappster Sep 12 2005, 04:00 PM
no, i use Nair as lube
uhhh..I mean hypothetically I would use it
Posted by: Puppet Sep 12 2005, 04:08 PM
Use wax last longer
Posted by: Hot mama Sep 13 2005, 07:48 AM
I would not mine eather
Posted by: sweetnsexy Sep 13 2005, 07:52 PM
1) No you are not a cheating bastard - she's the one cheating;
2) However, you are an accessory to the crime, and no doubt hubby would regard you as a cheating bastard - this is only a problem if a) you like him (in which case you shouldn't be screwing his wife!), 
you get caught and c) he is bigger and faster than you and beats you up!!
3) No...parading yourself on the web isn't cheating...its a form of exhibitionism! And talking dirty is only a more aggressive form of flirting, with anonimity! 
Posted by: Narazbad Sep 14 2005, 01:19 AM
ok...wax on your dick....PAINFUL!!!
Posted by: bondiguy Sep 14 2005, 03:10 AM
its awfully hard to cheat with herself!
Posted by: Coolbobbo Oct 9 2005, 12:30 PM
Wow!!
Posted by: denyse Oct 9 2005, 05:48 PM
1) My opinion, she's not staying in the marriage 'for the kids'. If the marriage was bad enough, she'd be out the marriage and take the kids with her. In a bad marriage, the kids are better off out of it so they don't see daily bad behaviour and believe that's the way to grow up. I think she's staying in the marriage for her herself and the lifestyle it gives her, ie the benefits of a family, security, and the ability to have 'fun on the side'.
Now, she's the one cheating not you, she's the one that needs to work out what she wants, but why not remove yourself from the inevitable shit that's gonna land when either a) the husband finds out and/or decides he doesn't like what she's doing or B ) she decides eventually to drop the marriage and expects you to take up the slack?
I think it's probably the opinion of most folks on here that you deserve better than that
2) yep, it's exhibitionism, although if you do it without SO knowing, then I guess it could be considered somewhat iffy on the cheating front....
Posted by: bondiguy Oct 10 2005, 02:32 AM
You would make the pope swear my friend, you truly would
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